Something You Decide on Ahead of Time

“Do not allow the past or the future to rob you of your present.” I found this statement and the following story on I’m Happy Project website: “A 92- year old, petite, well poised and proud man- who is fully dressed each morning by eight o’clock, with his hair fashionably combed and shaved perfectly, even though he is legally blind-moved to a nursing home today. His wife of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, he smiled sweetly when told his room was ready. As [...]

Main Lessons From Happiness Book

Happiness refers to a set of feelings that are pleasant and the evaluation the person makes that his or her life is going well. Life satisfaction depends on doing well in major areas of life – relationships, health, work, income, spirituality and leisure. Subjective wellbeing = positive effect – negative effect + life satisfaction+ flourishing When a person is doing badly in one of these areas, it can color his or her overall life satisfaction. Most people in industrialized nations score above neutral on measures of happiness, however, high stress and burnout also characterize many people on modern societies. Many [...]

The Power of Positive Thinking

Happy people naturally reinterpret events so that they preserve their self-esteem. Optimists are those who retain a sense of hope for the future and interpret life events in a positive way. One example, my friend and her parents went to a fancy pizza place, the food was great, but as she got home she had stomach problems. Later her father read her blog and was mocking her that she wrote it was a great dinner. My friend told him that to her the fact that she went out with her dear parents (both alive) to a very nice place and [...]

Happiness Book: Seeing The Big Picture

The universal truth we have all experienced is people interpret the same objective events around them based on their own personal values, biases, selective attention, and sense of identity. How we interpret the world around us plays a large and important role in how happy we are. Scientific explanation of why people are incapable of taking in the whole picture: Our brains are information processors and the world is just too full of stimuli to effectively take it all in. From the movie What the Bleep do we know – we can only process ½ of all we see. And [...]

Happiness Book Highlights

I just finished reading Happiness: Unlocking the Mysteries of Psychological Wealth book by Ed and Robert Diener. I find it the most entertaining and comprehensive books on happiness so far. The book describes psychological wealth, which includes life satisfaction and happiness. Even though I don’t agree with certain statements in the book, I’d like to point out some highlights. Work. Many people believe that their work is a drudge and their leisure is fun. But some activities are work for some and leisure hobbies for others. NBA players do for work what most of us do for fun – play [...]

Have an Average Day!

I found this Blog post by accident… or not! Check this out: “This article neatly summarizes my feeling, but with a little bit of research to back it up; taken from the Utne reader, link following: “I once was talking to my friend and mentor Steve Chandler when he said to me, “Have an average day!” Taken aback, I asked him what he meant. Isn’t the idea to have great days, even exceptional ones? He told me a story about one of his mentors, Lyndon Duke, who studied the linguistics of suicide. After receiving doctorates from two universities, Duke began [...]

How The Imperfectionists Came About

The moment I saw the book The Imperfectionists at the Airport shop, I wanted to read it. It is on my list to read, and today I found writer’s review of the book. It is an example of resilience in action and reminds me of A Movable Feast, when Hemingway was in Paris trying to write a novel. Here is what Tom Rachman says about his book: “I grew up in peaceful Vancouver with two psychologists for parents, a sister with whom I squabbled in the obligatory ways, and an adorably dim-witted spaniel whose leg waggled when I tickled his [...]

The Tuesday Program

A Free Online Positive Psychology Program for Increasing Well-Being Aaron Jarden from Canterbury University, Psychology, Christchurch, New Zealand The Tuesday program is a free seven week online positive psychology intervention course which aims to increase general well-being by using already empirically validated approaches and techniques. Participants log onto the program website (www.thetuesdayprogram.com) every Tuesday for seven consecutive weeks, learning a new topic each week. The seven topics include: strengths, growth mindsets, purpose and values, gratitude, communication, relaxation, and mindfulness. Participants learn these new skills in under 10 minutes by watching a short 4-6 minute animation, and then by downloading a [...]

Forgiveness Class (Part Seven)

As we spoke of beautiful things in our life, someone said that the day is beautiful, and as if the day forgives you. I thought that the Universe forgives us too. One girl said that when a couple of years ago she almost lost her sight but got it back, suddenly she saw that everything was beautiful, everything she could see again. It is always like that – when something tragic happens in your life and you survive, you realize that you are rich – you have your life, friends, and freedom – you have a lot. Then the same [...]

Forgiveness Class (Part Six)

Then we switched to the second part of the meditation exercise, when we forgive ourselves. I started crying even more, as I realized that I did hurt myself over the years– not eating properly, not working out, stressing out, staying in miserable relationships, being stuck in unsatisfying jobs. Stress was eating me alive from inside out, and I should have released all negativity long time ago, instead of carrying it within me for so long. I forgive myself and I love myself. What’s done is done, but I will not do those things to myself again. I will take care [...]